Just when I thought nobody was actually reading my blog, I receive two messages. They arrived on February 21st within a few hours of each other, which makes me very suspicious. Obviously, I had fallen asleep at the switch … it had been weeks since I had even logged on here. Here are the two messages:
Hi there — I’m Elizabeth Marquardt. I appreciate your support of my work, and would like to ask that you remove the reference to “turd” and Wendy Kramer’s work. She and I don’t agree on all policy matters but her intentions are excellent and she’s doing great work. In any event, language and imagery like that has no place in serious civil conversation and I don’t like my name being mentioned in association with it. My thanks —
And a few hours later:
I note that you hide behind the shield of anonymity and do not permit comprehensive replies to the garbage you put out on ther internet. I have a lot to say about your Turd Award to my friend Wendy Kramer but I guess you are too bigoted to want to hear anything that contradicts your own views. Eric Blyth (University of Huddersfield)
My guess is that neither one of these messages comes from the person who claims to have written it. Both of them say the same thing … that I should remove the “turd” award for Wendy Kramer, and I received them within a few hours of each other on February 21, 2012. Note that I have posted very little in the last three months. After diligently maintaining this digest for several months, finding new material almost daily, it had come to seem as if nobody was reading. I was not doing anything to promote this blog.
Here is a link to the original turd award that I gave to Wendy Kramer. I’m sure nobody noticed it at the time, since I have done next to nothing to promote or publicize this anonymous blog. I will answer both messages here.
To the person who claims to be Eric Blyth … I offer to publish here anything you would like for me to say, as long as you do not pretend that you are Eric Blyth. Garbage as a figure of speech is North American English … people from Yorkshire say rubbish. Since the real Eric Blyth is a so-called professor at a university in England, he has better forums to publish his views.
If you want to send me some evidence that you really are Eric Blyth, then I am willing to let you use that name. However, my own opinion is that you are the same person who wrote the “Elizabeth Marquardt” letter a few hours earlier. Furthermore, it’s possible that you are the only person reading this. But go ahead, send me your rubbish, and I’ll publish it.
So-called Eric the professor accuses me of being “too bigoted to want to hear anything that contradicts your own views.” Note that I have included in this digest a diversity of viewpoints that are not my own, including that of Dr. Jamie Grifo, a leading fertility doctor and a spokesperson for Fox News. At the other extreme, I’ve included articles by Lindsay Greenawalt, who opposes all donor conception, at least in theory. I happily share their work because they represent valid editorial viewpoints and don’t pose behind academic credentials. I disagree with both Jamie and Lindsay, but I have no plans to give them turd awards because they are both speaking from the right end of the digestive tract.
Now, as to the substance of what you say. Don’t you think I am entitled to anonymity? Many years ago, I donated sperm. I did so with the expectation of privacy, not only for myself but also for other members of my family. Now a woman named Wendy Kramer runs a self-promotional business, complete with phony peer-reviewed research papers that the real Eric Blyth helps her publish. She draws a salary to fly around the USA claiming to represent all donor-conceived children, and she runs forums and databases where the moms (and not the donor conceived children themselves) violate the privacy of both the anonymous donors and of their own children.
Wendy Kramer already runs her own forum where she can control everything that is said about her. I don’t need her stooges telling me what to say on my forum, which seems to have almost no readers as it is.
To the person who claims to be Elizabeth Marquardt … don’t you think it’s suspicious that within hours of your message, another arrives from the person claiming to be Eric Blyth?
To both the person claiming to be Eric and the person claiming to be Elizabeth. Send me your phone number and I will call you and verify that you are who you claim to be.
To the person(s) who might be my own biological child(ren). I have joined the various “home genetics” websites and I have agreed to be contacted by others through family match. When you turn 18 and become an adult, that’s how you can find me. But if you are looking for me through Wendy Kramer’s Donor Sibling Registry, you are wasting your time and money.
If I really do have some readers, perhaps I should become active and start writing again. I see there have been a lot of news articles in the last few months.